Constantly comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to undermine your self-esteem. Other people may appear to have it all together but remember it’s generally harder to see the things they struggle with. We’re all aware that the images you see on social media can give a false impression - through filters and carefully posed photos - of someone’s ‘perfect’ live. 👌 But the same is true in real life as it’s natural to keep your inadequacies and insecurities more to yourself. In fact, we tend to look at others through the lens of our own weaknesses, more readily noticing others strengths which correspond to our weaknesses.
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So don’t compare your insides to everybody else’s outsides. Try to be comfortable with who you are. 💗 Set goals that are realistic for you and don’t pay too much attention to what others are doing. Here are some tips to help you push those comparisons away:
Try to be more self-aware 💡
Most of the time you probably aren’t even aware you are making comparisons. Try to check yourself when you find yourself doing it. Figure out your particular triggers for this behaviour. What happens to your thoughts and feelings in these situations? How can you avoid this?
Practice gratitude 🙏
Shift your focus from how you fall short, and focus instead on the things you know you are good at or the things you have in your life. You could try keeping a gratitude journal for this or making time to celebrate small everyday achievements.
Be kind to your imperfect self 🧡
No one is perfect and it’s your imperfections that make you who you are. Life is a journey there will always be things you could improve or be better at. The important thing is to keep moving forward, keep learning and find your own path.
It is important to be able to manage these types of thoughts and feelings. Set goals for yourself and focus on loving and accepting every part of who you are!
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Simon is one of the founders of Beanbag Health with a personal passion for entrepreneurship and health. Simon is a serial impact entrepreneur and was previously an advisor to the UK National Health Service. He is on a mission to enhance young people's mental health, and, specifically, transform support for young people who suffer from eating disorders.